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How to Survive Labor – Tips From a Doula (pt2)

How to Survive Labor – Tips From a Doula (pt2)

How to Survive Labor – Tips From a Doula (pt2)

If you read part 1 of my blog, “How to Survive Labor – Tips From a Doula” you’re already going to do so well with those simple and basic preparations! Part 2, the pro tips are for the moms that go the extra mile, and basic info isn’t enough. “Give me every tip you have!”  Momma, you’re going to do so well, you’re going to have a beautiful labor and there is nothing to fear. That’s what this part 2 is about. How to prepare throughout your pregnancy to give yourself the best chance at a great birth. It doesn’t matter what kind of birth you are having, natural, cesarean, induction, etc. Good preparation will make any birth have much better results, even in getting a quicker recovery afterward. Thrive in this labor. Have a great story to tell your friends about how you laughed throughout your whole labor, about how there was no pain only enough pressure to let you know what’s happening. These labors happen all the time, but we only hear the horror stories because it is the traumatized people that are compelled to tell their story again and again. You won’t be one of those. Rock your labor with these pro tips!
1. Nutrition is Key
Nutrition is the building block that everything stands on. If you don’t have good nutrition you can be sure there will be problems. So what does good pregnancy nutrition look like? For a healthy you and a healthy baby you need to be taking a good prenatal supplement to start. I recommend Thorne, Seeking Health, or Zahler Prenatal DHA. As far as what you should be eating, it is recommended that a pregnant woman eats:
at least three servings of protein per day (for Iron)
five or more servings of fruits and vegetables per day
three or more servings of healthy dairy products per day (for calcium)
foods with essential fats (Omega 3’s and 6’s)
Bone broth is a staple for pregnancy as it provides minerals like calcium, magnesium, and phosphorus and is rich in gelatin, collagen, glucosamine, chondroitin, and amino acids. It can also help you overcome morning sickness.
There are plenty of things to avoid and limit as well. You should limit white tuna (albacore) to no more than 6 oz a week. Limit your caffeine as well to about 12 oz a day. And while many people disagree about whether alcohol is allowed in pregnancy or not, it has been proven that even small amounts of alcohol have somewhat of an effect on the baby and your pregnancy. So better just not to risk it in my opinion. Avoid all fish that contain high amounts of mercury, anything unpasteurized or raw meat. Eating good nutrition is going to help you feel better and have more energy, which brings me to my next point.
2. Exercise for Labor
Exercise during labor is a little different during pregnancy because you’re focusing on different things. If you work out all the time, you can keep doing that, but there are certain things that help prepare your body for labor. First is Kegels, I recommend at least 10 minutes of Kegels a day. You can split it into two 5 minute segments. Kegels are fun because you can do this anytime, anywhere. In a boring meeting? Kegels! Washing dishes? Kegels!  Try it in all different positions: sitting, standing, squatting, leaning over, laying down legs up, etc. Build up the amount of time they’re held and the pressure with they’re held. In an addition to Kegels Ina May Gaskin recommends 500 squats a day for a quick labor. It may take some time to get to that point. Split it up throughout the day to do as many as you can handle. But you should be up to 500 before the birth of your baby. Walking: many midwives won’t even take on clients unless they agree to walk 5 miles each day, rain or shine. It must be important! And last, is stretching. Some may not consider this an exercise, but it certainly prepares you physically and mentally. Flexibility in labor is very helpful in an of itself, but doing split-like stretches helps open you up and prepares you to release and let go of the tension and muscle gripping in labor. This is especially important if you’re worried about: length of labor, size of the baby, tearing, or the pushing stage in general. Learn more labor exercise HERE.
3. Red Raspberry Leaf Tea and Dates
Red Raspberry Leaf Tea is amazing. It tones the pelvic floor, strengthens the uterus, guards the immune system, and eases morning sickness and more. This is a favorite for doulas, we love the amount of good that comes from drinking a simple delicious tea. You can begin drinking this in your 2nd trimester. Dates are another great way to improve your labor outcome. It is associated with shorter labors, higher bishop scores, going into labor more spontaneously, avoiding Pitocin and many other things. You can begin eating them at 36 weeks, read more about them HERE.
4. Baby Positioning
There are many things you can do to improve the position of your baby. Most of us know that a sunny side up baby (posterior) means a longer harder labor with a ton of pressure on your back. If this is the case you should spend a lot of time on hands and knees every day doing some slight rocking. About 30 minutes to an hour every day can really help encourage your baby to move into optimal positioning. You can find out from your care provider where your baby is sitting, and then do some belly mapping to fill in the missing pieces. From there you can get to work. There is rebozo sifting, yoga, and exercise that can get baby moving. Any movement is said to be good movement because it just gives your baby more opportunity to do what it already knows to do. If your baby is breech at full term it will usually result in a c-section, so it’s best to get to work on that from 30 weeks on. A few things have been shown to help with that. The first thing is frequent deep pool diving, this creates a pressure that has been successful to turn many babies around. Having your partner speak or sing to the baby at your pelvic floor is so great. Your baby is attracted to the familiar sound and will draw near and hopefully engage when this is done regularly. The right kind of massage, acupuncture, and chiropractic care have been shown to help at times as well. If all of these things fail to engage a breech baby head down, then you should turn to Version, a procedure where the doctor will attempt to turn the baby manually. For more information on how to turn a particular position visit
5. Perineal Massages
A massage for your perineum can drastically improve your chances of not tearing and avoiding an episiotomy. And not tearing is a big must for surviving labor. It may be hard to do for yourself, you’ll need a mirror and some perseverance… or a partner for this. I recommend using coconut oil or vitamin E for this procedure, and to do it every day from 34 weeks on. Detailed instructions can be found HERE.
6. Stay Loose and Breathe
Now, in labor, there are things to remember and techniques to do. This is why it’s so helpful to have a doula, she knows what these things are and how to help you in those moments. So first thing to remember is that a loose jaw = an open pelvis. There is a direct connection with the tightness in your mouth, and the tension down below. So keeping your sounds low and your jaw slack help keep the looseness needed to avoid fighting your own contractions. Then there are breathing techniques, which there is no ‘right one’ just pick one you like. They are designed to keep you breathing deeply and getting plenty of oxygen to the baby, keeping you calm, and… distracting you. That’s right. Counting those breaths through every contraction really helps to refocus you and distract from any negative feeling.
7. Mental Preparation
I am all about mental preparation. In fact, I include meditation sessions with most of my packages, and will give the instructions on how to do it if they don’t choose that package. I think it single-handedly makes the most difference in the actual labor process. So there are many avenues of mental preparation. There is childbirth classes to educate you, a Bradley or Lamaze class to instruct you, and Hypnobirthing to change your mind. I think they’re all great, but if we are being honest we all have fear during our pregnancy lingering in the back of our minds concerning childbirth. This fear is ingrained in our body and even if we chant positive mantras, our body still reacts to the unknown with fear and negativity. I believe we can have positive labor, a pain free birth, and a glorious experience (even without the medication). Since this is the ‘pro’ tips from a doula I will give you the unconventional wisdom. In addition to meditation and the things mentioned in my last blog, EFT tapping is a way to address your fears and then rid yourself of them. Watch positive labors on Youtube or join BirthTUBE on facebook. Speak out what your birth will be and how you’re creating a pathway for it to be this way. Don’t speak anything that doesn’t feel honest. Speak only the truth. Ground yourself in nature for the meditation and visualize what your birth will be like because of your preparation and incredible birth team.
If you apply all of these things well, then you’re set up for an expert birth. You’re rocking this pregnancy, and you will rock motherhood as well. Just remember to hire your doula; knowing everything does not decrease your need for actual educated support during labor – physically, emotionally, spiritually, or as an advocate.
Let me know if there is anything I missed and how you are preparing for labor!

How to Survive Labor – Tips From a Doula (pt 1)


How to Survive Labor – Tips From a Doula (pt 1)

Labor and delivery can be extremely daunting. We are counting down the days from the beginning, dreading the labor, but excited to meet our little one. But the thing is, it doesn’t have to be. Honestly, you can rock your birth so well that the word survival doesn’t resonate with you anymore. As a doula, I have the amazing opportunity to guide women through pregnancy and labor and find out what works, and what doesn’t. And I have found unsurprisingly that those who prepare the most, handle their labors the best. I have some basic tips for you if you’re a first-time mom, or a mom that wants a better labor experience than before – oh that’s all of you? Okay, let’s delve into this topic and learn how to not just survive but have an incredible experience in your birth.
1. Get a Doula, or at Least a Childbirth Class.
We all knew I had to say it. It’s my highest recommendation I believe in them more than words can tell you. It makes a massive difference in your birth. And I haven’t met anyone that regretted getting a doula (maybe the wrong doula, but not a doula in general) if there are none in your area or in your budget, take a class. It will give you understanding, ease your mind, and make you more confident about your upcoming birth. Find a doula in your area HERE
2. Make a Detailed Birth Plan
Now, I have to give you the disclaimer that you probably won’t get it to happen exactly according to plan. But it goes along the lines of “Shoot for the moon, even if you fall short you’ll land among the stars.” Which may be incorrect astronomy, but you understand. Making a detailed birth plan increases your chances of having the birth you want. You’re not going to remember everything you want in those intense moments, but having someone remind you to change positions, or turning down the lights for you, adding some relaxing music, these little things make a big difference in your labor. In your birth plan also you should have procedure protocol ready for you and your baby as well. A good place online to make a birth plan (if you’re not hiring a doula) is HERE.
3. Release Your Fears
Since we know you don’t progress well unless you’re relaxed, and fear fights your natural hormones from releasing, it becomes extremely important to ward off fear. How? First, through education, learn all you can about birth, WARD AWAY FROM THE HORROR STORIES. Secondly, through prayer/meditation, take time every day to focus on the birth you want and remind yourself that you will get it. Pain-free, easy births are possible and they happen all the time. Remind yourself of all the measures that can be easily taken if something were to go wrong. Contractions are just flexing muscles and like a wave to embrace and ride. Think of pushing your baby out is like pooping out a stick of butter, easy because your body has already opened like it’s designed to and made way for your baby.
4. Relieve the Pain
The #1 pain relief option that people go for is an epidural. Epidurals have some pros and cons like everything, but after studying if you feel this is your best option, read this. There is also Nitrous Oxide which wouldn’t be my first choice as it has some seriously dangerous side effects. Then there is natural pain relief: water birth has been called ‘the natural epidural’ for good reason, the temperature and weightlessness contribute to major relief. If you’re not able to do water birth you can use similar techniques with a hot water bottle, warm cloths, or your partner holding you up to relieve you of any muscle usage (the weightlessness factor). There are instinctive position changes, massage, distraction, focus, oils, counter pressure, rebozo sifting, kissing, and many other natural ways to decrease or eliminate your pain. Your brain only has so many sensory receptors and if you combine as many of these things as you can, chances are you won’t have the space to feel pain.
5. Beat Exhaustion
Many moms confess that although they did all the right things and had a great labor in many regards they were just totally exhausted. Early labor is anywhere from a few hours to a few days or even weeks in some cases! Active labor can last up to 20+ hours, but from 6cm it’s usually between 4-8 hours. When you have to focus intensely through every contraction, those hours get very long. So first thing is preventative care. When you are in early labor many moms get excited about impending labor and find it hard to sleep. Don’t be that mom. Pretend it’s not happening and take a nap. Even if you can’t actually sleep, lying there is better than walking around trying to provoke labor to get rolling. If you were going to run a marathon in the evening would you exercise all day? No. Exercise should have happened in preparation for this day, but delivery day requires all the rest you can get. Also if you’re able to nap between contractions early on it’s a very good way to get you through the finish line. Secondly, you need fuel. Unless you’re planning on a C-Section (or believe you may need one) you have every right and responsibility to eat something. I recommend a smoothie as it is easily digestible and is good healthy energy to burn without the crash (try these yummy recipes!).

These are the basic tips to survive labor. If you don’t prepare you can expect to run into problems and pain. Every woman needs to be well prepared before undertaking this amazing feat. My next blog (part 2) is the expert tips for surviving labor and delivery. This has more to do with preparation in your body and is for someone who is very dedicated to having a great labor and delivery, and a healthier body and baby. You can expect better results when you put in the time and effort. Let me know what you did to prepare for labor!

How to Survive Labor – Tips From a Doula (pt 1)
Why are people choosing home birth over hospital birth?

Why are people choosing home birth over hospital birth?

Why are people choosing home birth over hospital birth?

In a day and age where we have such incredibly advanced medicine that has prevented and cured countless deaths, diseases and debilitations why in the world would someone choose to deliver their baby at home over a hospital? There are several ranging reasons but here are the top reasons I have found people would rather have a home birth. (and they’re not as crazy as you think.)

  1. Comfortability.

Hospitals evoke feelings of safety for many people, because they know if something serious happens, they can help. For many though, (and I would venture to say most) if we knew everything would go perfectly regardless, we would feel much more comfortable laboring at home. Under normal circumstances hospitals poking and prodding, weird gowns, rules, and regulations, harsh lights, bustling people everywhere makes us nervous. When you’re trying to deliver a baby, little sensitivities matter a whole lot. 1 in 4 women report being fearful, anxious and overwhelmed due to their unfamiliar hospital environment. Fear actually causes more pain by tensing your body and causing you double the work. Fear increases tears and prolongs birth. I will one day dedicate a massive blog just to the link between fear and pain. But the point is, if you want a fantastic birth, you need to be where you feel the most comfortable and at peace. That could very well be a hospital for you! But if you are wanting a homebirth and are high risk, I would highly recommend you hire a doula to create that environment for you to in the hospital setting – it can be done!

  1. Safety.

Okay, I know. This one sounds backward. We do the hospital for safety right? Yes, sometimes. Other times and in other ways, home births can be safer. The hospital is full of very sick people. That’s what it’s there for. Your home probably isn’t. Many parents fret over exposing their fresh baby to multiple illnesses and diseases on their first day in the world.

Let’s talk about the C word. American hospitals are the best in the entire world for life-saving, high-risk procedures in childbirth, but the very worst (in comparison to other developed nations) for delivering safely in normal low-risk birthing conditions. We have a 23.9% Cesarean rate for low-risk pregnancies! Another study says 31%! That needs to be stopped! Home birth with a certified midwife in the US is at a 5.2%. Whoa. Remarkably better.  Is it understandable now, how some might choose to have their low-risk birth at home with a midwife rather than at a hospital? Parent’s might also choose home birth for safety reasons because it means they won’t have an unnecessary induced labor, and they’ll typically have much fewer interventions. While doctors tend to think cost/benefit ratio and opt for more interventions for the worst case scenario (which some mothers love), most midwives are very good about minimizing any intervention unless necessary.


  1. Cost and/or lack of insurance.

For a low-risk birth in the hospital, you’re looking at about $18,000 for a vaginal delivery or $28,000 for a C-section. Whoa, mama. Most of it will be covered by some good insurance if you have it and people are, on average stuck with a bill of $3,400

Prenatal care done by a hospital is around $2,000 without insurance. Insurance might pay all of it, but many times people are left with small bills throughout their pregnancy.

The average midwife at a home birth in the Kansas City area costs around $2,500 including their prenatal care. That’s not all folks! Insurance can cover anywhere between 30%-60% of midwifery costs and midwives are typically more than happy to work out a payment plan with you. You do the math! These crazy home birth people sound a lot less crazy now, huh?

  1. You can (almost) do whatever you want!

As long as everything is going well:  You can use candles, incense, or essential oils. You can have your older kids participate. You can eat whatever, whenever. You can labor the way you want. You can stuff a whole lot of people in there if that’s your thing. You can keep your baby skin to skin as long as you like and not be pressured to do anything you’re uncomfortable with. You won’t have anyone waking you up every hour or half hour to monitor you. You don’t have to get up and get into traffic or bad weather to get to a hospital. Homebirth is what you make it.

    Home birth is definitely not for everyone. I won’t try to pretend it is. It’s for low-risk moms that live close enough to hospitals in case of emergency, it’s for those that feel safest in their home and prefer not to be monitored. A mother’s instinct is a powerful thing, and I would just advise every pregnant woman and her partner to do as much research as possible. Don’t settle for less than your perfect birth.  Meditate and visualize on how you want your labor and delivery to look. Ask a potential midwife how she would handle emergencies. And then trust yourself, you’ve got a little one coming that’s going to need to trust you too.